PROGRAM – School of Wife

School of Wife · For Cohort · Fall 2026

Marriage deserves more than good intentions.

School of Wife is a one-year marriage education program for accomplished
women who want to understand their marriages more clearly, practice
relational skills deliberately, and build something increasingly connected and nourishing.

Your marriage does not have to be broken. Your husband does not have to enroll.
You do not have to arrive knowing exactly
what the problem is.

You begin by learning how to see.

Why a Year?

Insight can happen quickly. Pattern change requires practice.

You can understand an idea in an afternoon.

Living differently when work is stressful, someone is tired, the same argument appears again, or an old family script gets activated takes longer.

That is why School of Wife is structured as a year rather than a weekend intensive.

The first 90 days build the way you think. The next nine months give you repeated opportunities to apply what you have learned to ordinary married life.

Not perfectly. Deliberately.

Phase I · Foundations · 12 Weeks

Before changing the marriage, learn how to see it.

Foundations is not a collection of tips. It is training in how to think.

Why did you marry — and what do you believe marriage is for?
Which expectations did you deliberately choose, and which simply arrived with you?
What actually happened, and what story did you attach to it?
When a problem repeats, are you looking at a person — or a pattern?
Do you have enough evidence to know what kind of problem you are trying to solve?
Are you prescribing before diagnosing?

Lessons 1–4

Why Marriage?
Why Mindset Comes First
Inherited Scripts
Evidence Before Opinion

Lessons 5–8

The Story Between the Facts
Patterns Not People
Diagnosis Before Prescription
Renewing the Mind

The 90-Day Milestone

What can you see now that you could not see before?

At the end of Foundations, you do not take an exam. You apply the method to a fresh fictional marriage case and compare your reasoning with a faculty lens.

You also look back privately at your own learning: What do you notice now? What questions do you ask before reacting? What have you become more precise about?

The goal is not a grade. It is transfer.

Phase II · The Practice Year · 9 Months

Insight becomes competence through use.

Month 4

Safeguard & Transition

Learn what not to do with your new knowledge: do not diagnose your husband, over-own the marriage, or weaponize SOW language.

Month 5

Connection & Maintenance

Recognize bids, responsiveness, drift, and the small practices that help connection stay alive.

Month 6

Translation / Real Conversations

Move toward communication another person can actually understand and respond to.

Month 7

Conflict & Repair

Recognize recurring cycles, escalation, and what helps two people find their way back.

Month 8

Ownership, Roles & Household Systems

Examine who notices, decides, remembers, executes, follows up, and carries responsibility.

Month 9

Trust & Responsiveness

Study ordinary relational trust: reliability, responsiveness, follow-through, and repair.

Month 10

Intimacy & Aliveness

Explore affection, emotional closeness, play, novelty, physical connection, and the conditions that help intimacy remain alive.

Month 11

Relationship Re-Check & Application

Retake your private SOW Marriage Profile and apply the method to new fictional cases.

Month 12

Integration & Maintenance

Build a Marriage Maintenance Plan you can continue using after School of Wife ends.

How You Practice

See clearly. Choose deliberately. Practice and learn.

See clearly

Learn to distinguish evidence, interpretation, patterns,and structure.

Choose deliberately

Diagnose the kind of problem before deciding whatresponse fits.

Practice and learn

Make deliberate changes, observe what happens, and use what you learn to refine your next choice.

The complete Practice Record method — the exact tool you’ll use to work through this — is taught inside the program, not
published here.

The purpose is not to turn your marriage into a project. It is to replace automatic reaction with increasingly skillful
participation.

How You Learn

A school should teach you — not make you dependent on the teacher.

Sequential curriculum

Lessons build on one another rather than functioning as a content library to binge.

Case-based learning

Practice first on marriages that are not yours.

Private application

Reflections and Practice Records are not cohort assignments.

Live teaching and Labs

Clarification, reasoning, integration, and application — not group therapy.

Research Library

Supporting research, framework summaries, worksheets, and reference materials.

Private cohort community

Discuss ideas and learning with women completing the same year.

Ask Dr. Dos

Submit framework and application questions without publishing private marital details.

Your Private Marriage Profile

Not a grade. A place to begin.

Connection

Communication / Translation

Patterns / Conflict

Ownership / Operating System

Agency

Maintenance / Intentionality

A separate Relationship Position check adds context about mutual investment and relational direction. You complete the same
profile again in Month 11.

There is no overall marriage grade. No cohort ranking. No percentile.

This is distinct from the free public Relationship Position Check.

Fit

You do not have to wait until something is terribly wrong.

School of Wife may fit you if…

Your marriage is good and you want to develop it intentionally; it functions but does not feel as nourishing as you want; you keep encountering the same patterns; you are entering a new season; or you want to become more skillful without waiting for your spouse to take a course with you.

School of Wife is not…

Individual psychotherapy, couples therapy, sex therapy, betrayal-trauma treatment, crisis intervention, spouse diagnosis, or stay-or-leave advice. It is not appropriate as the primary support for active abuse or coercive control.

Does My Husband Have to Participate?

No.

School of Wife is designed so that a woman can learn and practice without requiring her husband to enroll.

Agency is not control.

You can become more skillful in what you notice, say, choose, practice, accept, decline, and participate in. You cannot guarantee another adult’s response. School of Wife never promises that changing yourself will cause your husband to change.

Is School of Wife confidential?

School of Wife is designed to be a private, respectful learning environment.
You will never be required to share intimate details of your marriage with the group in order to participate or benefit from the program. You decide what you share and what you keep private.

Because this is a cohort experience, participants will also be asked to respect the privacy of other women and not share another participant’s personal story outside the group.

Time Commitment

Built for full lives.

Foundations combines short sequential lessons, private reflection, scheduled live teaching, and Integration Labs.

Months 4–6: structured biweekly touchpoints
Months 7–12: monthly Marriage Labs
Optional office hours: scheduled at selected points

Recordings are available during active enrollment when sessions are recorded.

Tuition

Founding Program Tuition: $7,997

This includes the complete 12-month School of Wife experience: Foundations, Practice Year, live teaching, Integration and
Marriage Labs, structured practice tools, private cohort campus, research/resource library, SOW Marriage Profile at baseline and
Month 11, and faculty guidance within the program structure.

If an installment option is offered, exact terms will be displayed before enrollment.

Admissions

Fit before enrollment.

Step 1

Complete the seven-question application.

Step 2

Have a 15-minute admissions conversation.

Step 3

Receive Accept, Hold / Clarify, or Refer.

This is not a test of whether your marriage is sufficiently troubled. It is a fit process.

The Fall 2026 Cohort

Your marriage is important enough to learn.

You were not expected to become excellent in your profession without training. Marriage should not be the one major
area of adult life in which love is expected to substitute for education.

Marriage isn't a talent. It's a skill. And skills can be learned.

12-Month School of Wife Experience. $7,997 paid in full
or 3 monthly payments of $3,000 ($9,000 total)