Marriage by Design
important in your life — except marriage.
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The Problem
Most of us were never taught how to think about marriage.
You learned how to build a career. Make difficult decisions. Solve problems. Lead people. Manage responsibility. Every one of those skills took years of deliberate training.
Marriage got none of that. We’re expected to be good at it because we love our spouse — as if love alone were a curriculum.
You may have raised the same concern more than once, in more than one way, and watched almost nothing change. You may have a husband who helps — a genuinely good, present man — and still be the one who notices what needs doing, plans it, asks for it, and remembers it. You may be running a life together smoothly while quietly feeling more like partners in logistics than close companions.
That does not automatically mean your marriage is broken. It may mean you have both learned to function around patterns you were never taught how to identify or change.
What You'll Learn
A framework for building the marriage you actually want.
Why a good marriage can still feel lonely or depleting
Learn the difference between a marriage that functions and one that actively nourishes both people.
Why the same disagreements keep returning
See how couples can spend years arguing about the visible issue without identifying the pattern underneath it.
Why help does not always reduce the mental load
Understand the difference between completing a task and actually owning responsibility for it.
How to move from default to design
Discover how vision, standards, agreements, and rituals can help you build the marriage you want for this season of your life.
Who This Is For
This is for you if:
You’re an accomplished woman who wants to bring the same intentionality to your marriage that you bring to everything else you’ve built — whether your marriage is thriving, functioning, or somewhere you can’t quite name yet.
You don't need:
A marriage in crisis. A spouse who’s already on board. Or a clear diagnosis of what’s wrong — this class will help you find better language for that.
Your Teacher
About Dr. Dos
Dr. Dos is a board-certified pediatrician, founder of School of Wife, and a systems thinker who brings the physician’s discipline of understanding before prescribing to marriage education. Married since 1989, she built School of Wife around a conviction that became impossible to ignore: we train people extensively for careers they may practice for forty years, and give them almost no education for marriages they hope will last even longer.
Free Live Masterclass · Marriage by Design
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Questions
Is this really free?
Yes. There's nothing to buy to attend the live class.
What if I can't make it live?
Register anyway — you'll get access to the replay for a limited time after the class.
Does my husband need to attend too?
No. This class, like School of Wife itself, is designed for you to attend and benefit from on your own.
What if my marriage is already good?
Good. This class isn't a crisis intervention — it's for women who want to be intentional about something that's already working, not just wait for a problem before paying attention to it.
How long is the class?
Plan for up to 90 minutes, including time for questions.